Daisy's Guide for Soon-To-Be Grandparents

For grandparents who want to do this right.

Becoming a grandparent is one of life’s most exciting moments — and one of the easiest to accidentally mishandle.

Families today look different than they did a generation ago. Expectations, boundaries, and parenting norms have changed. Many grandparents care deeply, want to be involved, and still worry:

“I want to do this right. I don’t want to say the wrong thing, overstep, or create distance.”

Daisy’s Guide for Soon-to-Be Grandparents was created for that exact moment.

What this book helps you do

This guide helps you think through the questions most grandparents don’t realize matter yet — before misunderstandings happen.

• Support your growing family without overstepping
• Navigate modern parenting norms with confidence
• Clarify your role early, so expectations are aligned
• Strengthen your relationship with your adult child and your grandchild
• Feel calm and confident about how you show up

This isn’t about rules or judgment. It’s about starting this relationship thoughtfully and setting a strong foundation from the beginning.

What’s inside

• 30 guided reflection questions, divided into 7 sections
• Each chapter includes:
  • Context and insights to help you think clearly
  • Thoughtful prompts to reflect on your role
  • Space to write down your thoughts and decisions, so you can revisit them later
• 208-page paperback, designed to be read at your own pace

Many grandparents read it once straight through — and return to it as real situations arise.

Who this is for

This guide is especially helpful if you are:

• Becoming a grandparent for the first time
• Excited, but a little unsure how to navigate this new role
• Aware that times — and parenting expectations — have changed
• Focused on building trust and closeness, not tension

If you’re thinking, “I don’t want to mess this up,” you’re exactly who this is for.

Who created it

This guide was created by Benazir Drabu, M.D., Medical Director of the Mother-Baby Unit at Oklahoma Children’s Hospital, and the team behind Daisy’s Guide for Soon-to-Be Parents.

Thousands of parents have used Daisy’s Guide to reduce stress, get aligned, and avoid unnecessary conflict during major life transitions. This grandparent edition applies the same relationship-first approach to your role in the family.

A note about tone

This is not a baby-care manual and it’s not a list of “rules for grandparents.”

It’s a respectful, thoughtful guide that helps you reflect, understand modern family dynamics, and decide for yourself how you want to show up — in a way that strengthens relationships instead of straining them.

When to read it

Most people find this guide most helpful after the pregnancy is announced and before the baby arrives, when it’s easiest to establish trust, clarity, and mutual understanding.

Start this chapter with clarity and confidence.